Earlier today, my mom sent me a text picture of Ana laying in the leaves. First I smiled and then I cried. Yes, I cried over a beautiful picture of my daughter. I cried because I miss her. I miss my son. I don’t know when I spent quality time with them last. I see them everyday in between school, chores, homework, and activities. Our conversations are quickly about school and our days, then they move to cleaning up messes, getting ready for the next thing, eating, and their chores. I have missed my son’s flag football games, and he only made it to 4 out of 6. We don’t miss sports, we commit. However, our commitments are lacking this fall.
Somehow, we became the family we never wanted to be. We are busy, and not the productive kind either. It starts with one yes, then another, and another…. before you know it, you are scheduling things on top of other things, and letting someone down. UGH! I am about to scream….instead I cry. I cry because where is our pause? Where did fall go? Our treeless yard is full of beautiful colored leaves, but where is our leaf pile? Where are the memories of sitting in a pile of leaves and throwing them in the air? Where are the squeals and the laughter? Where are our visits to the pumpkin patch or apple picking? Where did we go?
Starting on Monday, our family schedule is being reset. We will go trick or treating together, we will enjoy Halloween. In November, there will be cuddles on the couch, piles of leaves, laughter and time together. We, as a family, are pulling out of all extra curricular activities with very few exceptions.
In November, I am giving my family the gift of time. I am giving them my 100%. I will be present and happy. I promise this to them. Life is too short to waste it being over-scheduled and busy. It’s time to pause, to laugh, to enjoy each other. That is what our life is all about.
I will not forfeit another season. It is time to say No.